While I was struggling with infertility amid what seemed like a sea of friends and acquaintances having babies I felt very alone. I did a ridiculous number of Google searches for information and took solace in various infertility facts for a variety of reasons. Some months I was comforted by knowing that even for healthy adults the odds showed that I wasn’t supposed to get pregnant in any given month. Other months I was comforted by knowing that if I sought treatment we would have a better chance of conceiving. Sometimes I needed that just to drag myself in for another test or to pee on another ovulation stick.
I revisited these facts and used just about every OTC predictor and medical intervention I could. I’m happy to say it worked for us. In the event, you are struggling here are some of the infertility facts I hung my hat on while I was in the thick of things. I hope they help you too.
A definition: Infertility the inability to conceive after one year of unprotected intercourse (six months if you are over age 35) or the inability to carry a pregnancy to live birth.
Although plenty of couples conceive the first month out of the gate. It isn’t the norm.
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A couple ages 29-33 with a normal functioning reproductive system has only a 20-25% chance of conceiving in any given month (National Women’s Health Resource Center).
It may feel like you have been trying FOREVER. BUT:
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After six months of trying, 60% of couples will conceive without medical assistance.
Although most infertility testing focuses on women:
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Approximately one-third of infertility is attributed to the female partner, one-third attributed to the male partner and one-third is caused by a combination of problems in both partners or, is unexplained.
Seeking medical assistance helps in the majority of cases:
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Approximately 44% of women with infertility have sought medical assistance. Of those who seek medical intervention, approximately 65% give birth.
You may feel like you are all alone. You are NOT:
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1 in 8 couples (or 12% of married women) have trouble getting pregnant or sustaining a pregnancy.
New treatments are coming along ALL the time. Just recently:
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Although it wasn’t around for me, a new IVF technique called IVM designed to help women with PCOS appears to be less expensive and more effective.
A 100-year old technique called HSG was shown to be significantly more effective when a specific type of oil was used to flush the fallopian tubes.
Hang in there! I hope this helps. Do know I’ve been there and I tried it all (OTC, Eastern Medicine, traditional medicine). Countless other women, you see happily pushing strollers, have been there too. I frequently discuss my miscarriages so other women suffering in silence know they aren’t alone too.
Sources: CDC, ASRM.org, Resolve.org,